Spontaneous Decisions: Keep in mind
that spontaneity is self-generated and should not be confused with Impulsive
which results from an external stimulus.
Being spontaneous can be good or bad depending on the context. I refer to my usual weakness: deli meat.
If I devour a pound and a half of maple coat, smoked and basted honey ham on a spontaneous urge, I would lean towards “bad” in terms of the havoc it will bestow upon my health. Having said that, if I’m bowing to the human, pleasure seeking, hunger-driven altar of delight, my answer would be “yes.” As with most things in life, it’s a matter of perception. It's okay to feed your desire for spontaneity, but try to condition yourself to be spontaneous in constructive pursuits. Make that your focus and do your best to avoid rash decisions. Making a quick decision to take your spouse or partner out for a lunch date never hurt anyone. But deciding to take a road trip to the local restaurant to get drunk off your tush is not the spontaneity one should strive for. |
I once learned very quickly to temper my spontaneity on a ski trip. While cruising peacefully down the slope, I “spontaneously” decided to go off a mini ski jump. Keep in mind, I’m built like a gorilla. I’m a block with feet.
Imagine a heavily built guy hitting a ski jump, and being airborne – momentarily. When I “landed,” I made a sound similar to a Sasquatch mating and passing gas at the same time …. spontaneously! Don’t ask me how I know of such a sound. The air was laced with the combined dismay and amusement of innocent bystanders. Children were crying.
To this point, some people will use their spontaneity as an excuse for poor decisions. People just like me! After all, I was being spontaneous.
On a more serious note, there are benefits to being spontaneous:
It Keeps Things Interesting!
Being spontaneous keeps us from falling into a rut. The good news is that spontaneity can also get us out of a rut. Additionally, being spontaneous helps us become active participants in life. Spontaneous people have a tendency to make things happen.
It Keeps Us Flexible
Some people must rely on a tunnel vision plan for everything. This is downright boring and sets us up for stress and disappointment. This is coming from someone who likes a good plan. On the other hand, spontaneous people plan on anything! Because of this, spontaneous individuals are able to deal with contingencies in a healthier, and more positive manner.
It Promotes Creativity
Spontaneous individuals color outside the lines. In fact, they don’t think in terms of lines and other hindrances. They are more imaginative and focus on being the flow instead of going with the flow. They allow their thoughts to be spontaneous and then decide what to do with them.
So, is spontaneity bad? There’s no exact answer. It depends on how you want to apply your spontaneity. Will it be your tool to creatively shape the masterpiece called your life? Or will it be a weapon?
The decision is yours ….
All I know is I’m done with ski jumps. ~Ted
Wouldn't it be great to be more spontaneous and free in life? To break out of dull dreary trudging along doing what's expected? The first rule of life is: Survive! That's obvious, of course, but we often completely overlook just how much this fundamental rule dictates what we do, or think we can do. To survive among other people, you do have to get along with them. This means you have to learn, and abide by, the social rules that prevail around you. These rules come from your family and the society you live in. Some are set in laws, and some are unspoken conventions. It's not necessarily a bad thing to have rules about what you can and can't say, what you can and can't do. |
Too much living by rules can stifle spontaneity
Life's easier when everybody knows what's expected of them, when we all know how to get along without upsetting others too much. But we can give too much importance to following rules. When this happens, we quash our natural responses and enthusiasms. We never allow ourselves to follow an impulse or do anything wild. We can't risk being creative, for fear of some kind of social or family disapproval.
And that's when life can turn dull, dull, dull. Nothing but ticking the right boxes to be whatever happens to be considered good in your particular social setting. It takes all the fun and adventure out of life. It becomes hard to motivate yourself about anything, because it feels like you can never do anything new or interesting.
But it doesn't have to be like that!
Hypnosis can help you rediscover your natural creativity in life
Hypnosis will reconnect you with your natural instincts and creativity and reignite the spark of your life.
As you relax and listen repeatedly to hypnosis sessions, you'll find that you:
Try hypnosis for yourself and discover who and what you can be!
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